Leaving an abusive relationship can be challenging and, in some situations, dangerous. Careful planning can help increase safety and access to support.
If there is immediate danger, call emergency services or seek help from a trusted person, shelter, or crisis service. Safety should take priority over any other consideration.
Confide in a trusted friend, family member, counselor, advocate, or religious leader. Having support can reduce isolation and provide practical assistance when it’s time to leave.
A safety plan may include:
If it can be done safely, collect or make copies of:
Store these in a safe location outside the home if possible.
Consider:
If it is safe, keep records of abusive incidents, including:
Documentation may be useful for legal protection and custody matters.
Abusive partners may monitor phones, computers, email accounts, social media, or location services. Consider:
Domestic violence advocates can help with:
Depending on the situation and location, options may include:
Consulting an attorney or advocate can help clarify available protections.
There is no single “right” way to leave. Some people can leave immediately, while others need time to prepare. The safest plan is the one that accounts for the individual’s circumstances, risks, and available support.
Abuse is about power and control. No one deserves to be abused, and support is available. Reaching out to trusted people and professional advocates can make the process of leaving safer and more manageable.
Call or text: 800-799-7233
Or text START to 88788
